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We are steadily increasing our resources and information to encourage and equip fathers!

Below is a link to the updates that were made during the month of October. Let us know what you think!

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It wasn't until researching this lesson that I learned Ben Franklin is credited in saying "you can do anything you set your mind to". Until this point, I simply knew it as another cliché on which I was raised!

From the youngest age I can remember, my dad, time and again preached these words. And time and again, he was correct. No matter the challenge or hurdle, in sports or school, he continually reminded my brother and I that each battle started in the mind.

Recently, I have enjoyed reading/listening to books written by former Navy Seals. One common thread in each book is that, when entering training, you cannot pick out who is going to make it through based on physical appearance.

There have been muscular, fitness buffs that don't make it, while scrawny 5'-5" guys do. It's not whether or your body can take the beating, it's if your mind can.

In David Goggins' book, Can't Hurt Me, he talks about what he calls the 40% rule. That when most people quit and have given all they have, there is really 60% left in the tank. To him, it's all about mental toughness and callousing your mind no matter the pain your body endures.

I am currently reading @ryanmichler's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. Part II of the book is called The Mindsets of Masculine Leadership. The first line of this section says, "Anything you hope to make a reality must first start in the mind."

It's not a new thought. Not anything off the wall. But just because it's simple to say, doesn't mean it's easy. However, it is the first step to accomplishing anything of importance. Get your mind right first.

You can do anything you set your mind to.

What are you going to do?

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"Books in themselves are a wonderful thing. I love to read. I love to read a real book. The smell, the texture is such a gratifying visceral sensation. I would recommend to anyone when life gets too busy, sit down, silence everything, and read a good book.

We all need positive ways to be with our children. We need ways to positively interact with them. They need to see us in lights that don't involve us disciplining and or telling them to clean their rooms; stop touching that, get your finger out of there, get that out of your mouth, please sit still, eat your food….the list goes on!

I have found one of the most enjoyable ways to connect with my children is to read with them."
-Jerod Post

Continue reading at:
www.theintentionalfather.com/post/read-to-your-kids

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"It is easy to think about oneself, my fatigue, my frustration, my hardship. When I would do this I found I was not centering my focus on my children and their well being. I would be more frustrated with them, less patient, and less able to withstand the hustle and bustle of a wild home with kids in a constructive manner.

When humans are stressed, when you are pushed in a mental and physical form, I take great interest in what comes of it. Look at how people speak or react to one another when they are unhappy, when they are scared, when they are pushed to their limit.

Will you as a father take your stress out on your children?"
-Jerod Post

Continue Reading at:
www.theintentionalfather.com/post/parenting-takes-heart

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In every scenario of life there are facts and truth. Unfortunately, too often we see only certain facts, rarely the truth, and are left to decipher the rest.

Words like "Fake News", "Misinformation", or "My Truth" have now become common place.

Only a tap away there is information supporting either side of any discussion. Information/data is used on both sides of the argument, dependent only on the bias of the author.

While, in many cases, this may not be a bad thing, it is something to be aware of and approach with caution.

If the topic is one you wish to have an opinion on, consider the sources and the raw information. Do your own homework and objectively formulate your thoughts.

Don't take things at face value or pass off other's thoughts as your own. Don't get entrenched in a discussion where the depth of your knowledge is a headline.

Think for yourself and teach your children to do the same.

There are multiple sources pointing to multiple origins of this saying, so we will call it unknown for now, but in no way does that diminish its prevalence.

"If it looks like a duck, swims like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then it's probably a duck." Don't let someone convince you it's an elephant.

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At the end of the day, I pray my children are confident and kind in all they do. As they grow, I will be slipping in these lessons when and where appropriate. Hopefully, they will stick as well as they did for me.

Read full article here:
www.theintentionalfather.com/post/5-lessons-for-my-children

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